#4 - Fall in Love
I’ve always been happy by myself, I’ve never wanted to force a relationship when I wasn’t ready or with the wrong person. I did not think the person I’d fall in love with and have the most incredible relationship with would be a girl I had the biggest crush on at school when I was 12 years old.
My earliest memories of my friendship with Lindsey:
Lindsey Legs – this is what my mum calls Lindsey because when I was 14 I coached her brother Paul for Duke of Edinburgh badge, she ran across the field and gave me a birthday present and balloon.
I remember trying to return the favour, cycling to Fordham, not knowing where on earth she lived, she didn’t answer her phone, and then as luck would have it there she was at Scottsdales where I was waiting to give her present.
Lindsey, Lauren, Tom Fisher and I went to Newmarket on the bus, I remember her trying on a red top and I just thought wow this girl is hot, I was a proper melt/wuss at 14 ha but was a huge fan even there.
I remember us messaging, must of been on MSN Messenger, both RnB fans, Usher – you got it bad being our song.
There is a gap of about 2 years where she went out with Matt Newman, so I must of blocked this out.
Tech classes at Soham Village College. Cooking classes and I remember speaking a little in English.
The big memory was at Prom, were our colours matched, more than my prom date at the time. We both stood outside and I remember she said, “I wish I went with you” I think we both realised we’d missed our chance here and were gutted.
The years to come:
Looking at messages we sent each other, we would keep in touch on Facebook, couple of birthday messages here and there. We almost arranged to meet up but it didn’t seem to happen.
I remember Lindsey always donating when I did a charitable cause, which I always loved.
I walked into the Fox once and she was there with her boyfriend at the time, and the smile from both of us when we saw each other. Ecstatic to see each other. She later told me, she said even to the boyfriend ‘god I love James’
Getting together:
2018 I was randomly back in Burwell for a football game I wasn’t suppose to play in. I thought I’d treat myself to a nice breakfast so I went to the Co-op and from what I knew just so happened to bump into Lindsey. It was so nice seeing her and we arranged to go for a coffee.
The real story is, Lindsey was driving by after a night shift, recently single after 8 years and saw me, so she pulled over and decided she was going to say hi.
We met for coffee, and it was so great to see her, we laughed and she was as lovely as ever, unfortunately her head was not in it, the break-up was very fresh and that’s where we left it.
Blown away:
Just after the first lockdown we met for a socially distanced walk. I was blown away, she was stunning, she hadn’t changed, she was more Lindsey, happier with herself so happier in general, funny, nice, sweet, caring, self-aware and hungry to enjoy life. I attempted the lamest kiss ever when we left, which was just awful ha but it cemented the fact that I fancied Lindsey and I think she let go of the idea that we were just friends.
Stonehenge:
We’d arranged to have a date weekend, and I was a lot smoother this time ha. I’d got her favourite gin, a little picnic when she’d arrived as we sat on the local park with the sun coming down. I then cooked a very nice meal. As I went to go to the toilet at one point, we kissed passionately and I left the room, this was the kiss that changed it all for her. We just had the most amazing weekend, so comfortable with each other, laughing the whole time whilst talking about anything and everything. Oh and ticking off Stonehenge with her was special.
The rest is history:
Lindsey and I are just a perfect match, both caring, passionate people who want to be honest, do their best and enjoy life as much as possible. I love the way it feels like I just hang out with my best friend who I have a raw attraction to. She does/will support me as I push myself forward in life, as I do her. We feel like we’re in a little bubble when we are together and can take on anything around us.